Wellbeing is more than being happy, and resilience is more than bouncing back from challenges. Wellbeing expert Kim Tay explains the two concepts and tells us why they matter.
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There’s a lot of talk about wellbeing and resilience, but what do these words actually mean?
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The most simple and useful definition of wellbeing comes from experts Keyes and Annas, it’s feeling good and functioning well.
Feeling good is easy to understand – it’s experiencing positive emotions, being happy, being satisfied with life.
But wellbeing is more than just about happiness. It’s also about:
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We achieve wellbeing when we have more resources than challenges. By ‘resources’ we mean psychological, social, spiritual and physical resources. By ‘challenges’ we mean psychological, social, and physical challenges.
The more we develop our wellbeing, the more we develop our ability to cope with challenge.
This is why developing our wellbeing can help us become more resilient.
As our wellbeing improves, we can face more challenges. Think about when you first set up your business. You were probably not able to handle a lot of challenge. But as you learnt more, you’ve become able to handle more.
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What about resilience? Most people typically think resilience is about bouncing back from adversity. But it’s more about how you get through threat, stress, challenge & adversity, so you continue to feel good and function well (or get back to feeling good and functioning well).
The process of getting through challenges can be hard, messy, and really difficult. But we learn through that process and improve. We don’t necessarily bounce back to where we were before.
We acquire skills along the way.
Resilience gets us out of a black hole. Wellbeing takes us a step further — away from the hole and into the sunshine.
Expert Dr Karen Reivich tells us that resilience helps us in four ways. The first three ways are responding to things that happen.
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The fourth way is about being able to stretch and grow.
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If we want to be able to grow and embrace opportunities, we need resilience to help us reach our potential.
Resilience comes from the ways we choose to think and the ways we choose to act.
But building resilience is not a spectator sport. Just like trying to get fit physically, you have to get off the couch, and do a little bit every day. Building wellbeing and resilience takes commitment and effort, but small things add up over time.
Join us on two micro courses to build resilience with tools for resilient ways of thinking and acting. The first course is about building mental flexibility. The second gives you tools to get sharp and stay sharp — for performing under pressure, calming down in a conflict situation and calming other people down in a conflict situation.
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